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  • zrock on 05-30-09 05:28 PM
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well potty training still not an option for me alyssa refuses to talk hoping that by her 2nd bday she will at least tell me she needs a diaper change--no rush though this is the last one and funny looking back now how you miss those things--ugh!! time flies!!


 
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The expense of diapers I won't miss but the droopy big butt look with a waddle is so cute. Ever notice how the young boys that where the pants low and butts hanging out are trying to recapture this time in their lives? Let me be sure to clarify when they're that old it doesn't look cute; it’s kinda embarrassing looking.


 
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Here's an important question I think I'll ask often and I hope you all share often. How do you make more time for scrapping? I hate my speed and I get side tracked by life and it takes me more than a week to get a page done.

I sat down and pulled out enough to make over 50 pages this summer and told myself I MUST. So I set a goal. I see lots of people do that. I did that during spring break and it helped. I also pulled my crates of paper, my page map folder, and my computer with my favorite LOs from here I wish to borrow, and I'm decided on paper and LO before I get started on like a big bunch of them. I'm also rearranging everything so its all centrally located. I also caught the bug and broke down and bought a cricut. I'm feeling a ton of buyer’s remorse, but since I cut EVERY picture and letter and page by hand this could help save time. Not sure if it will help so I'd love to hear how you all make more time to scrap.


 
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She refuses?! My son would scream for no apparent reason at age 2! So for me, that would have been really nice. Does she talk to you if she needs something, like food or a drink?

for me, its usually either 5am, or until my son is asleep which I am beyond tired. But when nathan has daycare, thats when I get my work really done! (I don't have to work until 2pm)

My mom tells me to go out on the weekends and hang out with friends, but I usually tell her I need to catch up on my scrapbook!!! What a life I have! lol


 
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  • zrock on 05-31-09 02:43 PM
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I am kinda lucky as fas as scrap time goes--my dh is currently staying home with the kids and I work 7-12hr shifts in a 2 week period so I have days off so on my days off I get some time so like today we went to church and the kids are outside so I have scrap time but then tomorrow I go to work. but then I am off tue wed thur--I do have school on wed but tue and thur I will have scrap time as long as I dont have any assignments due this week.


 
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My boys weren't potty trained until they were 3! They are the babies and I was in no rush for them to be potty trained. I knew that after them, there would be no more babies. I was also not so quick to give up the bottle with them. They were 14 mos old when I finally took it away from them. Even then, I really didn't want to. That, to me, was admitting that they weren't babies anymore and I wasn't ready for that.

I scrap every free minute that I have, which is not a lot. I work Monday through Friday. So, I do have every weekend off, but I am also doing other things on those days off. I don't get to scrap as much as I'd like. I'm going to try to set aside more time for scrapping.

Stacey, you will LOVE the cricut! It will save you a lot of time on your titles and layouts! I used to use the alphabet templates and cut out each of my titles and then shadow each letter...it took FOREVER! The cricut will save you tremendous amounts of time. You'll love it!


 
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wow..at three they were potty trained?! Man, your so lucky! My son wasn't interested in the potty until 2 months ago. I would sit him down on the potty, but within 5 seconds of sitting, he would be like "I'm done!" Now he is basically potty trained, except for night time and in the middle of the nights.


 
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We still have the occasional night time "accident", but they know when they need to go to the potty. I'm excited because they don't need me to go with them to the potty any more. I used to have to be there for "morale" support, lol! They had to pull their own pants up, I couldn't touch them, I just "had" to be there. It's funny now...then, not so much!


 
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Michelle, I wouldn't even try to start potty training until he is at least 2 yrs old. Take it from a pediatric nurse, they just aren't ready until after 2 yrs of age. Sometimes when you try to early, they regress and it compounds the problem later. I'd wait. He'll give you clues as to when he is ready. My boys started pulling off their diapers and saying "I wet". That's when we brought out the ol' potty chair. BTW, M&Ms are a good treat for a "tinkle". Good luck!


 
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Glad to hear I'm not the only one that takes a week to do a layout. I almost have a "kinda" current family one done. I started it just yesterday so I'm psyched. It may with the help of the cricket that it was done so quickly.

We're planning a camping trip for about two weeks. Since my son spends the summer with his dad, we decided to do something before he goes. It's no roughing it because we'll borrow my brother's camper, but it will be hard to be away from my scrap supplies. I have papers and pics picked out but I can't decided how much paint and embellishments I should grab. If I don't take it I'll buy it out there. I'm hoping to escape about daily to get to a computer. Since I teach and have summers off it's easier to stay closer to his work.


 
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  • zrock on 06-02-09 08:25 PM
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good to plan time before he leave we always do that with my dd--in fact she left this past sat--she calls everyday though-lol. we took her and 3 more of the kids to lunch and a movie the night before she left. we had fun.

sorry to hear about your doggy--at least you know he went peacefully and didnt suffer in pain for a long time.

I agree about the potty training--I don't know if this holds true for everyone else but for me it was easier with my son than with my dds--he just seemed to want to faster.


 
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Hello Everyone
My name is Nicole, I am 29 year old stay at home mother of a beautiful 12 year old daughter and energetic 2 year old son (they are 9 days short of being exactly ten years apart, so of course they NEVER fight). I am married to my awesome husband for just over 3 years now. My husband is on a medical retirement from the Army. He was shot in Iraq which caused him to be found "unfit for duty" and released from the miltary. Now he is on his new career path as he is working on his masters in social work with intentions on working at the VA to help soldiers returning from war. He just would not be happy in less the military was part of is life. Plus he is 100% completely supportive of my scrapbooking supplies shopping habit, actually I think he is worse then me. (I have found my creating keepsakes magazines being used for reading material in his bathroom...lol...shhh dont tell him i told you). So now you know why I say he is "awesome".
I was an Account Manager until my DH convinced me to quit my job and stay home with the family. So now I also get no alone bathroom time, that's about all I miss about working. But besides that my life is pretty stress free, I take care of the house, the kids, the bills, and scrapbook when ever I can. Actually I have a scrap room but I normally end up painting or coloring with my son rather then scrapping in there...so I normally get maybe 2-4 pages done a month and that's only because my DH takes the kids to his parents on Sundays so my scrappin partner and I can scrap. My goal for the summer is to scrap at least 30 pages by August 31st....wish me luck.


 
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Welcome Nicole!
Just have to say that my ex is in the military and he's stationed in afghan. for right now. Sorry your hubby was discharged.

Okay, girls, I was reading that you have sons or daughters that go with their fathers. This is my situation.

My ex and I broke up last year after being together for 6 1/2 years. 3 months later after we break up, he's already married and going to afghan. He called out of the blue (since nathans last birthday (June 20th), has only called 3 times) and never wrote to him, nothing. But anyways, he's coming back from afghan. He wants me to put nathan on an airplane by ***himself*** and let him visit my ex in texas!!! (Stationed in ft. hood tx)

He's like "Well, nathan is old enough to travel on a plane by himself!" Um...he's 3 1/2 about to be 4!!!! Then he was like "Well, If you don't like that Idea, what about my mom taking him to come see me?" First of all, they havent seen nathan since september of 08. Nathan goes crazy, balling his eyes out if I, my mom or my dad leaves the room.

I want nathan to see his father, but I will not let him go see him by himself or with the grandma who doesn't even know him! I know that he has 30 days of leave after he comes back, why can't he come to florida and see him himself. You know what he tells me? "They won't let me come down to florida...meaning the army won't let me come."

Oh, and his new wife was my best friend from highschool. Now she is the one calling all the time saying "Since I am nathan's stepmother, I have a right to see him, and to talk to him!" Umm...no, you don't.

What should I do girls?


 
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  • zrock on 06-03-09 07:34 AM
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welcome Nicole--good luck on your goal

pamelalynne--I know this is hard I have been and still am on both sides of your story--more or less. The best thing I can tell you is trust in the lord you will make the right decision. And keep your decision strictly about Nathan--this is going to be hard because as humans as women we react on emotions--but dont later you will pat yourself on the back for this--also as hard as this is going to soound--nathan needs to see his dad because he will hold it against you later even if he doesnt want to go he will hold it against you later--at some point when nathan is older and your ex is a butt nathan will make the choice and letyou know--it is hard and yes nathan is young to fly but you could tell him to come pick him up and take him that is what my ex and I did till my dd was old enough to just go with an escort from the airplane--my oldest ds never saw his dad and often he will comment on it i thought i was doing right back then mind you this was about 17 years ago--I was very young and noone to talk to but being older now and looking back and what my ds has said I should have let him because the truth is his dad probably would have done it once or twice and left us alone--things we learn as we get older--hindsight--anyway good luck with all this I know it is hard and if you need to vent girlfriend we are here for you and beside you regardless of your decisions!!


 
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Hi Pamelalynne

Thanks for the "welcome " ladies.

My husband was stationed a ft. hood that was our last duty station before dischage. I loved it there...actually now I live in Chicago with plans to go back to ft.Hood once the DH finishes school.

But let me say my daughter is 12 and we had her flying back and forth 3 times a year to visit her father. Her first solo flight was at age 9 and she loved it. We used the unaccompanied minor service the airline offers. And everything was great, she even had connecting flights most of the time. But my personal opinon is almost 4yrs old is a little to young to go alone, especially to see someone who is almost a stranger to him now. I think for the well being of the child he needs to go to Florida to see him, to re-introduce himself to him (even if that means bring the new wife along). And I am sure you know...the Army does not limit where he can travel to while on his personal leave time. Just keep in mind....no matter what...it's about what's best for your son. Good Luck. And feel free to PM me if you want to talk more about it.


 
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My hat is off to all of you scrappers with young kids. I was way too overwhelmed when my kids were younger. I didn't start scrapping until my oldest was out, my middle was in high school, and my youngest was in elementary. The older they get, the more time I have to scrap. On the upside, I started so late that I will never run out of pictures to work with!

Stacey, feel free to ask me any autism quesitons. The kids are so much fun to work with. Of course, I don't have to work with them for a living, so I can say that, lol!


 
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Thank you ladies for the advice.
Welcome Luvmyfam!!

I know what y'all are saying is very true. I need to do this for my son's sake. But its very, very hard for me to open up and let my son be with his father. I mean, my son doesn't even know his father. Last night, I was listening to the answering machine, and the guy "to erase message, select delete again" and nathan looked at me and said, "Its daddy!" its so painful to see my son like that. But, you are right. I don't want my son to hate me when he gets older...but as a mom/dad to my son...I feel like I need to protect him from his dad so nathan won't get hurt by this person, or his new wife. I don't know anymore.


 
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sorry to burst everyones bubbles with my drama life.


 
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Drama is a big part of life...Don't sweat it sounds like a lot of us have been through this. My first summer after my divorce "I freaked" when I lost touch with my son and drove from Florida to Georgia and picked him up. Granted I legally had no right, but my gut instinct was right and my ex and his girl at the time were having some issues and my ex agreed that my DS should go home with me. I am thankful that he's remarried now to a lady I really like because I trust HER more than my ex with my son.

Regardless you have to try to let him see his son because everyones right it could be trouble later. There is no way even the airlines would let him fly. I'm a little surprise your ex would even suggest it. I also agree about the ex mother in law kids are attached to those around them and it would but him in a strange situation.

I must say that is odd to have leave and can't go any where. Please I can't believe it. My ex- served too and I don't ever remember anything like that but that was before 9/11.

Let me also say how that stinks that he's with an old friend of yours. That is messed up. Talk about rbbing the wound some more.

Good luck and you know we're here we got your back


 
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Pamelalynne, I hope that all goes well with your son. Everyone is right. I have a niece that lives with her dad. After her mom & dad's divorce, he took her and wouldn't let my sister see her any more. My sister would call and try to go by their house to see her, but he and his new wife (who was also his mistress) would tell her to leave and never come back. They had several sets of divorce papers drawn up and she wouldn't agree to them for various reasons. His lawyer (who happens to be his cousin) drew up papers and ran an ad in the newspaper saying that he couldn't find her and he got his divorce by default or something. Anyway, my niece really despices her dad for keeping her away from her mother for 3yrs! If you pray to God to give you a sign, he'll lead you in the right direction. Good luck. I'll keep you and your son in my prayers. Have a great weekend!


 
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