Hello again ladies. Ok, I have to admit....I created the monster in my EX. His mom certainly didn't raise him to be the way I had him. It was the way I was taught that he just sat back and let me do it all!!
Now DH now, his momma taught him well.
Val, I agree, don't just give him a to-do list for special occasions, make it a daily thing. Kinda like who's doing what on what days. Especially since you are working full time now, you need the help daily. Make a calendar, include dinner menu, chores, kids activities, and anything else important. I think by putting it in writing in front of him he will see you can't possibly do it all yourself.