Love the lab test idea. I got engaged to my high school sweetheart when we were in college. He pressured me - so I did it. TOTALLY regretted it. We ended up breaking up. Met my current dh. Told him about my past (and my feelings about it). We waited until the wedding night. I would've done it earlier, but he insisted that we wait (which is what I originally told him I wanted) so I would not regret it like I did with the other guy. Totally worth it. A tough couple of years though. And, yes, I have a seriously amazing dh.
Oh, and I haven't been around lately - Peg, I'm so sorry for what I read about your FIL. I will be praying for him.