My husband's parents are in town from Enland to visit us and the kids and will only be here for 2 days. My mom keeps asking when she can come over to visit them.
Why does she need to visit with my husband's parents? They will only be here two days and they don't come very often, maybe once a year if we are lucky. Plus, whenever they are in town and my mom comes over she never seems to leave and then just sits there and talks about herself. Embarassing stuff too, like her colonoscopy and how her skin just seems to hang since she's lost so much weight, UGH!
They won't be here for very long and we want some good quality time with the kids and their grandparents. My husband's parents dont even really care for my mom. But my mom is so oblivious and into herself she doesn't even notice.
Plus!!!!! If she isn't sitting there talking about herself, she is bad mouthing my husband... TO HIS PARENTS!!! Telling them how he is too rough on the kids and is lazy and impatient. I think I have always been too nice to her and I don't often just tell her how I feel, so when I do she says I am being mean or moody or I'll get over it.
What do I need to tell her to get her to understand that I don't want her to come over and "visit" with my inlaws... without feeling bad about it and being mean. She'll be offended either way, but I just want to know that I did the right thing.