Krista, I took dd’s toys and privileges away several times during her late elementary and early middle school days. They weren’t given back to her. She had to earn them back. How long it took to earn them back depended on how bad her actions were. But the small privileges were given back after a few days or a week or so depending on the circumstance. From past experience, taking everything away just made her act out more because she had nothing to lose. At least that was our experience. I said this to her many times…”Every action has a consequence and every consequence has a price. What that price is depends on you.” Our dd was and is very social so losing her privileges to school and church functions really hit her hard. And like Lori, I spanked too. DH and I both did. In looking back over those years, I don’t regret the spankings I gave her but I really regret the screaming and shouting at her that I did. I hope things settle down for him soon.
Have a lovely day ladies!