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Username Post: Dislike Christmas?        (Topic#1582903)
t-scraps
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In response to Luvmyfam

I love the holidays; I dislike the commercialization of it. Having time off to spend with family and friends. That's what I love. I dislike Black Friday and now Brown Thursday, selling Christmas decorations too early in the season. I love baking holiday cookies with my Mom, spending the Friday after Thanksgiving cutting down our Christmas Tree and decorating it instead of heading to the stores to buy things we don't really need.. I dislike the fact that kids today don't understand what the holidays used to be like.

I hope you have more bursts of happiness this year. Remember what the holidays mean to you versus what 'society' thinks it should be.


 
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In response to Luvmyfam

I have the same problem around this time of year...The days are shorter to where Im ready for bed by 7 pm I hate cloudy and rainy days because it seems I have little energy on those days...As far as the holidays...my family lives within 5 miles of each other but we are not close...I am lucky to have my two grown sons and two gdk but times are tough for everyone out there and with the economy the way it is everyone is feeling the pinch...I don't even feel like putting a tree up this year...my dh said not to....oh and my Mom went into a nursing home that is an hour away last week...thanks for letting me sound off....


 
arteshamac
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In response to Luvmyfam

Thank you. I will thank my husband for you. And I agree that music, especially Christmas music, during this time makes me happier:)


 
kelseymel
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  • Luvmyfam Said:
Artesha, thank your husband for us. And kudos for you for having to deal with the absence. Military families are amazing.



This!

So often the person left at home taking care of the family gets overlooked. It is hard work keeping the family going and keeping a smile on your face while missing and worrying about the one you love.

Big hugs to you, Artesha.


 
GMFTS
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  • GMFTS on 11-27-12 07:22 AM
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Artesha I want to thank you first for your service to us. Yes yours.
My ds is in the military and I know how hard it is on the family left at home at any time but most especially during a deployment. YOu have all the work of caring for a family plus keeping him supported and on top of that the worry for him. That's a lot to carry. I am so glad you can find a bit of support for you here.
And thanks to him too.



 
GMFTS
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  • GMFTS on 11-27-12 07:40 AM
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Doreena, and anyone else who suffers from SAD the lights OP mentioned are called full spectrum lights.

Here is one article about them:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/seasonal-affec tive-dis...

You can get all kinds of lamps/lights even a visor. Or you can try to get natural sunlight for 10-20 minutes a day.

A few years ago I started focusing on the idea that instead of it being so dark so early I would focus on the fact that in just a few weeks the days would start getting longer. That doesn't cure a thing but it helps me not pile on even more sad/downer ideas.

On top of depression I have ADD which makes everything harder. And I am tired of it all. Been depressed for most of my life and wonder what happy feels like.


 
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  • Gelidy Gelato Said:
my two cents

1) I hate the holiday stress.
There is a lot of pressure... to buy the right gifts, spend $$$, decorate, throw fabulous parties/dinners, attend fabulous parties/dinners. And attending work functions for me is particularly stressful. I really took the seating arrangement personally at a company Christmas party, when I didn't even make it into the main room. Sure was fun explaining why I was at a table in the hallway as people passed to go smoke.

2) unrealistic expectations
I just don't have the family, decorations, talent, money, etc. to have a movie perfect, "dream" Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Years. Everything I do will always pale by comparison. And if I wait to get invited to someone's elses efforts I am in store for an even larger disappointment. I can't expect others to meet my holiday expectations.

I may look negative/depressed too but I am speaking honestly so you know you are not alone.

The holidays are tough sometimes especially for people who are alone. I have done my share of voluteering and holding parties and it just doesn't fill that void.




Exactly!!! You summed it up well! And then when you suffer w/ depression like I do, that stuff take sit's toll x2!!!


 
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Artesha -
Sorry I didn't get to check into this thread again last night after I left work.
I feel for you!
I'm so sorry you have to deal w/ that... especially during the holidays!
But it looks like your doing a great job keeping it together and being a good mommy to your kids who I am sure miss their Daddy very much!
Hang in there!
I hope the 9 months "fly by" and that your DH comes home safely!!!


 
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In response to t-scraps

  • t-scraps Said:
I love the holidays; I dislike the commercialization of it. Having time off to spend with family and friends. That's what I love. I dislike Black Friday and now Brown Thursday, selling Christmas decorations too early in the season. I love baking holiday cookies with my Mom, spending the Friday after Thanksgiving cutting down our Christmas Tree and decorating it instead of heading to the stores to buy things we don't really need.. I dislike the fact that kids today don't understand what the holidays used to be like.

I hope you have more bursts of happiness this year. Remember what the holidays mean to you versus what 'society' thinks it should be.




Yes! Society totally F..ked up the Holidays!
Sorry but that's just how i feel!
I wish we could just enjoy the holidays w/ out it being all about "gimmie, gimmie, gimmie"!


 
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In response to GMFTS

  • GMFTS Said:
Doreena, and anyone else who suffers from SAD the lights OP mentioned are called full spectrum lights.

Here is one article about them:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/seasonal-affec tive-dis...

You can get all kinds of lamps/lights even a visor. Or you can try to get natural sunlight for 10-20 minutes a day.

A few years ago I started focusing on the idea that instead of it being so dark so early I would focus on the fact that in just a few weeks the days would start getting longer. That doesn't cure a thing but it helps me not pile on even more sad/downer ideas.

On top of depression I have ADD which makes everything harder. And I am tired of it all. Been depressed for most of my life and wonder what happy feels like.




I have ADD too!
Great add that to my list of problems... LOL!


 
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Thank you everyone for your kind words and empathy.
I was actually afraid to post the original question/comment because I was afraid that I would get a lot of backlash!!! But I just felt like I had to share...and I am so glad now that I did! I am happy that I am not alone...although I feel bad for those who suffer the way I do.
And for those who don't suffer from the same "problem" thank you for being understanding as well and not making me feel like a bad person for feeling this way.


 
arteshamac
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In response to GMFTS

Thank you so much!


 
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In response to Luvmyfam

I love Christmas. Favorite holiday beside Easter. I do hate Halloween. How can that be celebrated! I do understand the feelings of depression and sadness. I miss the family time that I used to have before my husband left me, but I recover fast from it. I see these holidays as an opportunity to develop new traditions and an opportunity to be a new me. I would not let these feelings to take over my life. I refuse to be depressed or sad. They are not taking over the wonderful time of special days and holidays!


 
RedSquirrel UK
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to everyone who the holiday season makes unhappy.

I echo what everyone else has said about SAD and the lights. Having to take my Christmas lights down is one of the really horrible things about the season for me.

And here's a slightly different point of view. We lived in the tropics for 5 years, then 2 years in Australia. Having a tropical Christmas was one thing to get used to. When we moved to Australia, having Christmas in the summer was interesting but no problem. But we never realised what it would be like having WINTER without Christmas. THAT was weird, and wrong, and depressing.

I don't like the hype, the pressure, the stress, the commercialism, but I do like the cheer of being forced to celebrate during the cold, dark months. It chirks me up during an otherwise miserable time of year. Just my two-penny-worth.


 
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In response to RedSquirrel UK

  • RedSquirrel Said:
to everyone who the holiday season makes unhappy.

I echo what everyone else has said about SAD and the lights. Having to take my Christmas lights down is one of the really horrible things about the season for me.

And here's a slightly different point of view. We lived in the tropics for 5 years, then 2 years in Australia. Having a tropical Christmas was one thing to get used to. When we moved to Australia, having Christmas in the summer was interesting but no problem. But we never realised what it would be like having WINTER without Christmas. THAT was weird, and wrong, and depressing.

I don't like the hype, the pressure, the stress, the commercialism, but I do like the cheer of being forced to celebrate during the cold, dark months. It chirks me up during an otherwise miserable time of year. Just my two-penny-worth.



Wow, that would be really strange (for us used to winter with Christmas)!!


 
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In response to scraprabbit

Born and raised in a tropical island it was nce for Christmas. When I moved to Illinois, I had the opportunity to experience WHite Christmas whcih I fell in love right away. When I moved back to a tropical like weather ( Florida), I had a rough time to feel Christmas as I was used to the winter like Christmas time. LOL!


 
kelseymel
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In response to RedSquirrel UK

  • RedSquirrel Said:
When we moved to Australia, having Christmas in the summer was interesting but no problem. But we never realised what it would be like having WINTER without Christmas. THAT was weird, and wrong, and depressing.



That would send me right over the edge. I don't do cold.


 
Gelidy Gelato
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There are many Christmas traditions that take a cold climate for granted.
Santa comes down a chimney,
hanging stockings on a fireplace,
Yule log,
Reindeer,
“white” Christmas,
even Christmas tree refers to a pine tree.

When I moved to So Calif I really missed the snow, sledding, ice skating, drinking hot cocoa, building a snow man. So many things, done in the colder climates, are so intertwined with Christmas that Christmas in So Calif just seemed flat. Heck they have to bus in snow just to have a snow ball fight.


 
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In response to Gelidy Gelato

Thinking about Christmas this year depresses the he11 out of me. I've never been a big fan of Christmas, but I'm especially down about it this year. The Christmas commercials on tv are making me want to strangle someone! LOL

Never thought about all the traditional Christmas imagery not fitting with the southern states... that would make Christmas seem very strange.


 
kelseymel
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In response to *jesse*

Having lived in Florida almost my entire life, I don't associate snow with Christmas.

Santa comes right on in the front door. He parks his sleigh on the roof, of course.

It still gets a little chilly here so we do wear ugly sweaters and drink hot chocolate.


 
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