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Username Post: Dislike Christmas?        (Topic#1582903)
Doreena
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In response to kelseymel

Yes, Melissa!
Living in CA almost all my life I have the same type of Christmas! Although Santa does come down the chimney.


 
Doreena
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And it does actually get cold enough sometimes to use that fireplace! Oh and I can drink hot cocoa all year long!


 
Diva
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Funny! I love Christmas, but hate Halloween. I don't get it!


 
Henri Jean
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In response to bayamonesa1

I love everything about Christmas except for the gift thing. I'd love Christmas not to be all about the gifts.

I don't know what to buy Bill. He can buy anything he wants for himself. Same with Joe... and my mother. She can definitely buy whatever she wants.

She has about 20 on her guest list and she hates the Christmas shopping so much that for the past 20 or 25 years she has just given everyone a check for $150.00 each.

However, like me, she loves everything else about Christmas.

Gift buying is big time pressure to me. One of my girlfriends buys me a lot of things I don't want and I stress about what to give her and I'm sure I give her things she doesn't want. Most years she gives me a $50 gift certificate for Amazon and I give her a $50 gift certificate for Barnes and Noble. Makes no sense at all.

Last year another friend, whom I've know for 30 years bought me a very nice Christmas gift. We have never done that before and now I feel compelled to send her a gift but I don't want to start gift trading with another person.

I send gift certificates to our married kids for $150.00 at Ruth's Chris steakhouse and $150.00 check to Bill's son.

They keep asking me what I want and I don't want anything. If I want something I go buy it. I don't know what to tell them.

I could do completely away with the gift part of Christmas.

It was fun when the kids were small and Santa was a big part of it. But I hate the whole gift thing.

Other than that - I love every minute of Christmas - the Christmas cards and decorations and hot chocolate and music.



 
Doreena
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In response to Henri Jean

Henri Jean - Exactly!

My husband and I never buy presents for each other...for any hoiday. For the simple fact that we never know what to get each other and whenever we want something, we can afford to go out and get it so we do! This is how a typical "gift giving" holiday goes in my house (example - birthday)

Me: I bought the new Kindle Fire HD
Husband: That's good.
Me: It's my birthday present from you
Husband: sounds good to me! Happy Birthday!

We are both happy.
Me cuz I got what I wanted.
Him because there was no stress trying to figure out what to get me.

But this does cause a problem when people, like my mom, ask me what I want for Christmas. I'm always like "IDK?! I buy everything I want, and what I don't buy is too expensive for you to buy..."
But in the end I do try to think of a few things I want that I can hold off on buying. And, if I don't get them I go out and buy them for myself after Christmas! LOL!

I honestly wish I could just do presents for my kids and no one else. Again, the stress of picking out what to get people when you have absolutely no idea just kills the Christmas fun. And also, when I finally decide on something there's the stress of:
Do they already have it?
Do they like it?
(In the case of kids) Will this $50 gift be tossed in the corner never to be played w/again w/in the month?

Speaking of kids!
Kids want some expensive s**t these days.
On my 6 year old nephew's list, not one thing was under $50!!! And I always try to buy at least 2 things for him. Right there, for one person: $100! Geeze!

And my mom goes overboard when she finally buys presents for me, because the items I give her are cheap...generally $20 and under. As it should be.
So I walk into her house w/ 2 present sfor everyone, which makes me look cheap because she bought me, my husband, and my 2 kids 5 or more presents each. But, in reality I spent just as much, if not more!
::
Merry Christmas

Sorry for the long post but Henri Jean got me riled up! LOL!


Edited by Doreena on 11-30-12 07:57 AM. Reason for edit: No reason given.


 
MeganJo
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In response to Doreena

I like christmas but I hate it to. I always say I'm going to spend the same amount on everyone but that doesnt work always. I have my dad,mom,sister, brother in law,nephew,aunt and her family(its my dads sister and we get 2gether on New Years every year.).My aunts family is her,her husband,and their 3 kids and one of the kids girlfriends.This year we have another family joining us which is one of our cousins and her boyfriend and their 2 kids.I try to save the aunts family towards the end of the year and buy a clearance priced Christmas gift sets.The kids normally get either supercross tickets and my dad and i go with them or concert tickets but not this year. I just didnt save $$ for it this year like normal.


 
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  • stick on 11-30-12 10:07 AM
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I hate the extreme commercialism, the Black Friday/Cyber Monday insanity, and tv commercials (although I mostly watch via Netflix these days). So, we don't participate in the negative aspects. Gifting should be fun, should never be required, and should never require reciprocity. We told friends and family exactly that - let's just enjoy the holiday, none of us need to spend money on random stuff under the mistaken assumption that there's an obligation to do so. Give gifts only if you REALLY want to and if you can afford it, but we expect nothing and you shouldn't either. So much easier on everybody.

We do get gifts for the niece and nephews (nothing major but we try to spoil them as much as we can, we delight in being their favorite aunt and uncle ), our parents/grandparents - a total of four people - each get a small gift, and then DH and I exchange gifts - within limits, we set a budget. We give each other a wish list of things we want, and we're not allowed to buy anything for ourselves during the holiday season. Our wish lists are mostly things that at any other time of year we would just normally buy for ourselves, but it's fun to have presents, and to be able to gift things knowing that they're wanted, and somehow we always manage to find each other a surprise thoughtful gift. And I love looking at the christmas tree with presents underneath. We do stockings, too - just inexpensive little treats and fun things.


 
arteshamac
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In response to Doreena

Honestly, I love homemade gifts so much more than store bought ones! I have always been this way as an adult. I decided that this Christmas would be the first stree free Christmas and I mean it. My husband is deploying, so I am spending my time in his arms and not in the stores as much this year. I will buy gifts, but I am not running around town trying to find the perfect gift for any adults this year.


 
lifethroughalens
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I'm a Christmas fan too, but I had to "learn" it all over again when I got older. It wasn't easy to face the fact that things just are not like they use to be and when my dad passed away (he was buried on Dec. 9, 2000)it was a harsh reality, especially at 26. So my husband and I are making our own traditions. We always do stockings, and we too set a budget between us and swap wish lists. As for my side there are no kids, all adults and we swap gift cards and do stockings there (we love to dig LOL). His side does things different, that's o.k. though, and I have put myself in the role of "helper" and let him take the lead on his side. So far it seems to work. My favorite thing for Christmas right now, is decorating and Yankee Candles. It has helped me get in the Christmas spirit even more, the last 2 years. I do feel for those that have a tough time and hope you find some enjoyment in some way.


 
Henri Jean
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There are a few gifts I do enjoy buying but they are smaller gifts - its the big gifts to my mom and family that drive me nuts. It's my girlfriend who spends about $50 on me every year and another that spent about that much on me last year - totally unexpected and I didn't have a thing for her.

Bill and I can afford to buy what we want for the most part. We aren't rich but we are reasonably comfortable.

I don't mind buying for children - that is fun. It's the adult gifts that can really stress me out. Our granddaughter will be fun to shop for.



 
Gelidy Gelato
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In response to Henri Jean

  • Henri Jean Said:
There are a few gifts I do enjoy buying but they are smaller gifts - its the big gifts to my mom and family that drive me nuts. It's my girlfriend who spends about $50 on me every year and another that spent about that much on me last year - totally unexpected and I didn't have a thing for her.

Bill and I can afford to buy what we want for the most part. We aren't rich but we are reasonably comfortable.

I don't mind buying for children - that is fun. It's the adult gifts that can really stress me out. Our granddaughter will be fun to shop for.




I always have a few extra gifts aready wrapped for those occasions when someone whips out a gift or I get invited to something at the last minute. Funny thing is I always have around 5 "standby" gifts ready and every year I end up needing them.
It sure beats having to raid your wine cabinet for a gift.


 
Henri Jean
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I sometimes keep an extra gift or two but this was expensive, I didn't have anything like that on hand and she mailed it from out of state. I got it a day or two before Christmas. We have known each other for 30 years and never traded gifts. We email quite frequently but I last saw her in 1991 and before that it was early 80's.


 
LeeLo
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  • LeeLo on 12-04-12 02:27 PM
In response to Henri Jean

I agree about gifts. I love giving a gift when I find something that I know someone will love, but the chore of having a list of people that I have to buy for and trying to come up with something is so difficult!

That's why Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday...the getting together without all of the gifts!


 
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My family has 7 adult kids and 5 spouses and 11 grandkids,so far. The adult kids always draw names and then proceed to spend $50-$75 per name. We always buy all the grandkids gifts and of course our parents.
This year, my husband and I felt we should do something else with our money and not draw names. When we talked to the rest of the family about it, everyone else said the same thing. So this year, we are buying the grandkids gifts, (no more than $10 per kid) and using the money we all would have spent on name drawing to remodel the floor, sink and kitchen of an elderly lady who has meant so much to our family. We just recently became aware of her living situation and since we all have been involved in construction in some way or another, this is how we are going to celebrate Christmas this year. We are all pretty excited about being able to do this for her.
I love this season because of celebrating the birth of Jesus but I hate the "must have!" side of it. That is also why I love Thanksgiving. Family Food & Fellowship! What's not to love!


 
Doreena
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In response to scrapnread

That's awesome! Now that's the spirit of giving!!


 
Diva
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In response to Luvmyfam

I get my mojo fpr the holidays playing music and watching special movies. Like you, I do admire military families. They are just amazing and most of the time forgotten!


 
Gelidy Gelato
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In response to bayamonesa1

As each person goes through their life, their role in the “holiday” changes. It starts out so great when you are the child and are the recipient of everything without lifting a finger. As you get older, you begin to participate more, buy gifts, decorate, etc. Then at some point the “responsibilities” shift to you, now you REALLY have to buy that perfect gift and can’t forget anyone, you may have to prepare the entire holiday meal for multiple people, do the “major lifting” decorating*, budget the whole holiday, write all of those Christmas cards, etc. We all want to be in the “kid” phase, where we sit back & enjoy, but often find ourselves in that “if you want a holiday experience YOU have to do ALL of the work” phase. Then in retirement, the younger generation may pick up the holiday coordinator/manager role and we can begin to relax.
*don’t even get me started on how it all falls on the woman. I have had several jerky boy friends over the years that wanted me to buy and decorate a tree. Hello you got arms and a car, you can buy a tree.

If you find yourself in that phase, where you are the person doing all the Holiday work, I have 2 words for you, SPIKED EGGNOG.

If you find yourself in the phase/place, where you can enjoy the holidays (cause someone else is doing the brunt of the work), remember to THANK them (and lend a hand if they will accept it).
Ok getting off my soapbox now…


 
Diva
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In response to scrapnread

So great. This year we are not buying gifts for the adults and we are using the money to help a single father who just got custody of his four daughter to make it a wonderful Christmas season. My parents already provided them with two twin beds and the bedding and a drawer chest. We are getting gift cards so the girls acan go and get what they want at Target or Wal-Mart, etc.


 
Henri Jean
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How nice to be doing things for these other families! That is what Christmas is all about - doing for others.

Like Leelo said, she likes shopping for Christmas if she knows just the perfect gift. I am in total agreement. If I knew exactly what to get everyone, then I would really enjoy it.

Today I shopped for my 35 year old son. He wanted a padded music stool. Didn't expect it to be over $160 - but it was and its in the closet now. He wanted a nice music stand - also expensive but I got it for him and a mentronome. He will get a few other little things.

He gets a check for $100 from his dad some Christmases and other Christmases his dad doesn't bother with the boys so what Bill and I give him is his entire Christmas and I like it to be nice for him.

I finally told Bill I wanted an HP photo printer and the model number of the newest. That really would make my life easier.

Down to my mom..

Two married kids in our families are getting Ruth's Chris steakhouse gift cards for $200 each.

And an AMerican Express gift card for Bill's son.

THen we are done with the big gifts. I may pick up stocking stuffers but not many.

Oh - going to buy one more things for Joe that is a bit pricey, some king of guitar music books and lessons on DVD. He has all but the end of the series.

I think part of my problem is that the weather is so warm that it doesn't feel like Christmas. I miss my Georgia Christmases - cold by not overwhelmingly cold. Some snow around the holidays. It feels like Christmas in the air.

I would like Thanksgiving better if I didn't have to cook the entire meal and spend 3 days in the kitchen with no breaks. Bill will help for 5 minutes but then he's gone.


 
Diva
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In response to Henri Jean

Wow! Very busy and expensive time of the year for you guys! As long as everyone is happy..why not. WE need to show our love to others in every possible way! Be blessed today and always!This Christmas for me are tough. Due to the diagnosis of Colon Cancer Satge IV and chemo treatments, I missed so much workdays and used all my savings, no money for Christmas, so I turned to scrapbooking and made scrapbooks for everyone. I know they are going to love them so I am happy for that. There is going to be a day that I can buy what they really want, but not this Christmas!


 
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