Journaling reads: There's an old story about two little kids who are playing together in a sandbox with their pails and shovels. Suddenly a huge fight breaks out and one of the kids runs away screaming, “I hate you! I hate you!” In no time at all they're back in the sandbox playing together happily again. Two adults observe the interaction from a nearby bench. “Did you see that?” one asks. “How do children do that? They were enemies five minutes ago.” “It's simple,” the other replies. “They choose happiness over righteousness.”
-Rule #7 in “Marriage Rules” by Harriet Lerner
As much as you two fight and scream at each other, it's never more than a few minutes before you are playing side-by-side once again as if nothing happened. It seems irrational to us adults. We hold grudges until the other person admits that they were wrong. This comes as a relief to me as the referee. Though I do the best I can to train you to treat others with respect, I'm confident that you will be close friends even after your squabbles.