My first post but hope you experts can offer some guidance.
So I've done scrapping for about 15 years but none in the past few years. I'm trying to do the first book for my grandson. He is just past 2 yrs old and while I have hundreds of photos, I've been afraid to tackle the scrapping.
My problem: His mommy, my daughter, died when he was 5 months old. She died of breast cancer at age 29, diagnosed when she was pregnant with him. So all the photos of the birth etc. are of her with no hair and obviously very sick, although happy as much as possible as she cuddles him.
My question: How do I make a book for him that is happy and about him, yet include photos of his mom without focusing on his mom's health too much? And the thing is, that has been preventing me from doing his book, is that, for example: His First Christmas, is also everyone else's first Christmas without his Mom...so naturally part of the 'reality' of those photos is sort of lacking joy, Or we did things to remember his mom--do I include those photos in his book? Or the photos taken of his aunts and uncles holding him and cuddling him on the day of her funeral in a beautiful sun-filled green space? They are a part of his history, and are truly beautiful images, but..
I'm trying to create a book that I think she would have created--but I'm also trying to be authentic which is how I do all my books. But I don't want him to look back on these photos and think it was all too sad and I want it to be about him.
The truth is, his first year was filled with loss. So do I not scrap it or include it? If I don't scrap it, he has big gaping holes in his first year.
Has anyone had to do something like this before and if so, please offer some suggestions. I want him to have a memory book and I want him to see the joy that was ours in having him survive, yet I want it to be real to her memory as well. She was delighted to be able to give birth to a baby with a head full of hair, even as she was bald and dieing. It was a testament to her strength and resolved to see him survive.
Thanks for any suggestions you can offer!