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Vallee
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make a gift for someone and then wish you hadn't? I made a great mini album for my cousin and his new bride as a wedding gift. It's black and white and sooooo cute!!! Now I'm wishing I had kept it and just bought them something!!!


 
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why?? was it because they didn't appreciate it, or because you liked it so much? I give so many away that I love,,,

but I can always make another for meeeeee,,,PLUS it will be BETTER, cuz once I make one of that shape/style/kind I have worked the bugs out


 
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It was because I liked it so much!! The more I worked on it and added to it, the more I wanted to keep it.

But I do see your point about working out all the kinks. I did figure out a few things that I would do differently.


 
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don't feel bad. I have the same problem with vacation gifts. By the time I get home I have decided to keep most of the gifts for myself. To this day every time I put on a certain necklace/earrings I think about how I purchased them for a friend... At least you didn't keep it.


 
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Yes. I've made albums for my MIL and SIL and wish I hadn't bothered. My MIL seemed to really like it at first but I noticed it was gone and did a little snooping and found it in a drawer (in the living room and had I been looking for batteries or a remote or something like that I would have discovered it. I didn't search bedrooms or anything like that). My SIL's is shoved in a drawer too. I didn't even have to snoop. I was there, noticed it wasn't out anywhere and when my nieces went looking for a specific book, the album was at the bottom of the pile in the drawer they were digging through.

I put a lot of time into those. They never give me ideas for bday/mother's day gifts or what they do suggest is way out of my budget so I spent a lot of time on these. Wish I had just worked on my own albums instead!


Edited by CSMmom on 03-28-11 03:01 PM. Reason for edit: No reason given.


 
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I used to make things for my MIL and SIL but do not bother any more. My MIL took my pages apart and glued her own photos in and on the backs of the pages too.. THEN she didn't want the book anymore and gave it to my SIL as a gift..

My SIL left it in her old house while I helped her move. I almost took it back but my hubby said I shouldn't and to just leave it be. I did manage to move it to her new house. BUT she only stayed there for 2 weeks and decided to move again.

My husband and I did the walk thru for her and my album was left in the back of the closet. Again I was going to keep it but he took it back to her..
I personally was going to take the butchered pages out and put the ones from my HUGE stack of pages that have no album in there. I can always use an album.

Oh and my SIL is always saying how she loves the little wall plaques I make... so I made her one last Easter that I think she re-gifted; because I didn't see it at all when we helped her move. I liked it so had I known I would have kept it..


Edited by planty on 03-28-11 04:46 PM. Reason for edit: lousy spelling


 
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I made an awesome shabby chic altered frame, with bling and Primas for DSS's GF for her birthday.....little tramp broke up with him 5 days later....you better believe I texted her and told her to GIVE IT BACK!


 
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did she??????? give it back, I mean?


 
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It'll be here tomorrow, sent home with DSS. I dont care if its catty or not....5 days after your bday is still a reasonable return window in my eyes. Especially for something I spent time and money on. The DSS did nothing.


 
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I do it all the time, but I figure the more I love it the more it will mean if I give it away..if that makes sense. Plus I usually just make myself something similar later if I really loved it that much-and it always turns out even better!


 
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I too have made gifts for others that I wish I had kept for myself,they didnt seem to like them as much as i did I guess because i was thinking of how much time and love i had put into making it special just for them. I have now decided to only make things for the ones that enjoy the same things i do ,like homemade gifts,I think they will truly appreciate the meaning more...


 
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Yes. I've made albums for my MIL and SIL and wish I hadn't bothered. My MIL seemed to really like it at first but I noticed it was gone and did a little snooping and found it in a drawer (in the living room and had I been looking for batteries or a remote or something like that I would have discovered it. I didn't search bedrooms or anything like that). My SIL's is shoved in a drawer too. I didn't even have to snoop. I was there, noticed it wasn't out anywhere and when my nieces went looking for a specific book, the album was at the bottom of the pile in the drawer they were digging through.

I put a lot of time into those. They never give me ideas for bday/mother's day gifts or what they do suggest is way out of my budget so I spent a lot of time on these. Wish I had just worked on my own albums instead!




Two words for this problem--gift cards, and not to somewhere fun either.


 
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DD made a sb page about her and her dad. She made it to go into a shadow box frame. DD put a very sweet handwritten letter about how she is happy that he finally decided to be a part of her life. I do not know if it was him or his wife, but someone took out DD's picture and letter. The frame now holds their daughter and a handwritten letter from her. This was the very first fathers day gift DD had ever had the chance to give him and she really wanted it to be special. So I was hesitant when DD wanted to make a mini for her sister's birthday last December. She made TP album that only cost me $10.00 bucks if that.


 
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I have made a couple exploding boxes that came out well and I wish I had kept them. But, the recipient really enjoys them and keeps them on her bookshelf to look at often, so I guess it's good I gave them away. I no longer make things for my in-laws because they just don't appreciate them. I have learned to only give handmade items to people who request them or who I know will like and appreciate them.


 
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DD made a sb page about her and her dad. She made it to go into a shadow box frame. DD put a very sweet handwritten letter about how she is happy that he finally decided to be a part of her life. I do not know if it was him or his wife, but someone took out DD's picture and letter. The frame now holds their daughter and a handwritten letter from her. This was the very first fathers day gift DD had ever had the chance to give him and she really wanted it to be special. So I was hesitant when DD wanted to make a mini for her sister's birthday last December. She made TP album that only cost me $10.00 bucks if that.


Pam, This story brought tears to my eyes. How can someone be so evil... I am so sorry this happened to your daughter's gift. What they did was downright cruel. I really hate to be suggesting this but if you had the chance I would steal it back or knock it off the wall. opps it broke

what they did was so wrong on so many levels.


 
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It's a real shame that some people simply have no class whatsoever, and can hurt the people who have gone to so much trouble and time, making something that should be kept forever. (Especially their own child.. grrr). I too have given handmade, 'special' gifts for people who have either given them away, or just don't use or display them for whatever reason.


 
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If I notice anything 'shady' after I have given something, that person just doesn't get anything handmade again. I agree with Vicki and just go for the gift cards.


 
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  • VickieW Said:
  • CSMmom Said:
Yes. I've made albums for my MIL and SIL and wish I hadn't bothered. My MIL seemed to really like it at first but I noticed it was gone and did a little snooping and found it in a drawer (in the living room and had I been looking for batteries or a remote or something like that I would have discovered it. I didn't search bedrooms or anything like that). My SIL's is shoved in a drawer too. I didn't even have to snoop. I was there, noticed it wasn't out anywhere and when my nieces went looking for a specific book, the album was at the bottom of the pile in the drawer they were digging through.

I put a lot of time into those. They never give me ideas for bday/mother's day gifts or what they do suggest is way out of my budget so I spent a lot of time on these. Wish I had just worked on my own albums instead!




Two words for this problem--gift cards, and not to somewhere fun either.



This is the best idea ever


 
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My mother is one that I've given albums to and she doesn't like them. She says that they're not really "creative" because of the purchased embellies. Grrrrr. You can bet she doesn't get anything but gift cards any more.

My cousin, on the other hand, loves the paperbag cat album that I made for her and keeps it prominantly displayed in her den. And she keeps all the cards that I send her, too. So she gets more handmade items!


 
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I made an album for my MIL for Xmas (with the store bought gifts we got her) out of an 8x8 album (kind of like the one pctured below but pink)I purchased that had the cardstock pages already in it and an opening in the front for a special pic or title. It was kind of last minute like the week before Xmas so I spent many nights that week up past my normal bedtime searching through piles of old photos of my kids to copy and the hundreds of photos in my computer to print,making sure to pick the perfect ones from my kids lives up to now. They are 13 and 8 so it was lots of photos. I then had to dig through my enormous stash of paper to find patterns that coordinated with the color of the cardstock pages. Anyways after getting it all together with all the hours it took I was really proud of how good it came out considering the rush to finish it. My MIL is not an involved grandparent so I thought she would Love it and all the pics of the girls growing through the years. I gave it her, she flipped through it and I got nothing! Not even a look how cute the pics were or a comment on the changes in the girls from babies to present. I was not a happy camper on the way home. My husband said "give her time to sit and look at it she'll call and thank you I am sure." It's almost the end of March and I haven't heard from her at all. I guess this year she'll get a gift card or a 12 pack of beer I know I'll get a thanks then....lol
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I made a mini album for two friends of mine who got married. I was unable to make it to the wedding, so I mailed it along with a bought present to their PO box, and they never picked it up. After a month I got the box back in the mail, $12 shipping wasted. They bought a house shortly after and have never given me the address even though I've asked half a dozen times over email. Both presents are sitting in my office, still in the returned box...when I think of how much time and effort I spent (I hand-cut a million little scallops, and sanded & inked around the scalloped chipboard pages....grrrr) well, it just makes me really sad


 
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  • SarahWscraps Said:
I made an album for my MIL for Xmas (with the store bought gifts we got her) out of an 8x8 album (kind of like the one pctured below but pink)I purchased that had the cardstock pages already in it and an opening in the front for a special pic or title. It was kind of last minute like the week before Xmas so I spent many nights that week up past my normal bedtime searching through piles of old photos of my kids to copy and the hundreds of photos in my computer to print,making sure to pick the perfect ones from my kids lives up to now. They are 13 and 8 so it was lots of photos. I then had to dig through my enormous stash of paper to find patterns that coordinated with the color of the cardstock pages. Anyways after getting it all together with all the hours it took I was really proud of how good it came out considering the rush to finish it. My MIL is not an involved grandparent so I thought she would Love it and all the pics of the girls growing through the years. I gave it her, she flipped through it and I got nothing! Not even a look how cute the pics were or a comment on the changes in the girls from babies to present. I was not a happy camper on the way home. My husband said "give her time to sit and look at it she'll call and thank you I am sure." It's almost the end of March and I haven't heard from her at all. I guess this year she'll get a gift card or a 12 pack of beer I know I'll get a thanks then....lol



that's sad I am always THRILLED when I get a school photo or a photographer's photo of my grandchildren,,,,

and I take a TON of snapshots myself!


 
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I made a mini album for two friends of mine who got married. I was unable to make it to the wedding, so I mailed it along with a bought present to their PO box, and they never picked it up. After a month I got the box back in the mail, $12 shipping wasted. They bought a house shortly after and have never given me the address even though I've asked half a dozen times over email. Both presents are sitting in my office, still in the returned box...when I think of how much time and effort I spent (I hand-cut a million little scallops, and sanded & inked around the scalloped chipboard pages....grrrr) well, it just makes me really sad



I'd scrap them out and put in my own pictures and keep the gifts!!


 
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Yep I did a pre-made a mini album for a friend and I don't think she bothered to put even a single picture in it. Lesson learned.


 
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DD made a sb page about her and her dad. She made it to go into a shadow box frame. DD put a very sweet handwritten letter about how she is happy that he finally decided to be a part of her life. I do not know if it was him or his wife, but someone took out DD's picture and letter. The frame now holds their daughter and a handwritten letter from her. This was the very first fathers day gift DD had ever had the chance to give him and she really wanted it to be special. So I was hesitant when DD wanted to make a mini for her sister's birthday last December. She made TP album that only cost me $10.00 bucks if that.




That is just sad. And a low down,dirty shame. Apparently the new wife thought it was a neat idea, but couldn't she have just bought another frame? Good grief!

I don't think I would be able to keep my mouth shut about that one. Think I would tear into someone over that. I feel bad for your daughter, I am sure her feelings were very hurt.


 
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  • SarahWscraps Said:
I made an album for my MIL for Xmas (with the store bought gifts we got her) out of an 8x8 album (kind of like the one pctured below but pink)I purchased that had the cardstock pages already in it and an opening in the front for a special pic or title. It was kind of last minute like the week before Xmas so I spent many nights that week up past my normal bedtime searching through piles of old photos of my kids to copy and the hundreds of photos in my computer to print,making sure to pick the perfect ones from my kids lives up to now. They are 13 and 8 so it was lots of photos. I then had to dig through my enormous stash of paper to find patterns that coordinated with the color of the cardstock pages. Anyways after getting it all together with all the hours it took I was really proud of how good it came out considering the rush to finish it. My MIL is not an involved grandparent so I thought she would Love it and all the pics of the girls growing through the years. I gave it her, she flipped through it and I got nothing! Not even a look how cute the pics were or a comment on the changes in the girls from babies to present. I was not a happy camper on the way home. My husband said "give her time to sit and look at it she'll call and thank you I am sure." It's almost the end of March and I haven't heard from her at all. I guess this year she'll get a gift card or a 12 pack of beer I know I'll get a thanks then....lol



OOOOOH, she would soooo be getting a cruddy gift card too! A cheap one, with only,ohhhh maybe $5 bucks on it. Grrrr! Take that, you hag!


 
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don't feel bad. I have the same problem with vacation gifts. By the time I get home I have decided to keep most of the gifts for myself. To this day every time I put on a certain necklace/earrings I think about how I purchased them for a friend... At least you didn't keep it.




Ha! I just did that. I bought about 8 things on our last trip. I gave only one away. Hey, when you find a great serving bowl and shells at the Elvis Presley Gift Shop on the beach in Punta Cana you gotta appreciate them.


 
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I only give to those I know will appreciate them. I never thought that someone who scraps would appreciate a mini album and I make a mini for her. She loved and and she was so happy that I spent the time. I suppose those are the people to give gifts to as they know the love and the time that goes into our creations.


 
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Some people enjoy and appreciate hand-made gifts and others don't. I find it awful that the ones who don't, don't always show tact in accepting the gift. Pam, you're story was saddening and made me VERY angry. I can't believe some people!


 
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I've only been making cards - I don't really have time to work on albums or bigger gifts. I did make a clock for my Godsister's 13th birthday - she and her friends loved it but her mum decorated her room for her and it didn't match. I haven't seen it since.

I've seen the other side though too - we move around quite regularly and often have to make the difficult decision on what to keep and what to donate/give away. I do have quite a few handmade things that are dear to me though that I keep in a keepsake box with other trinkets.

I understand if someone can't keep a gift I make them forever, as long as I can tell that they appreciated the effort I put into it originally. Some of your stories made me tear up though


 
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I'm just the opposite. I like to give away my best stuff, provided that they appreciate it. For you, I would use the creative momentum to make something for yourself!

I have switched to digital scrapbooking, and one advantage is that I can get as many prints as I want.


 
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I do sometimes make a card or something and think I like it so much I don't want to give it away but then I feel pretty good when I hear they love it. A couple times I've tried to reproduce it but it didn't turn out as nice. Oh well.


 
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When one of my nephews were born, I made an album for my SIL with pages for his pictures each month, with cute captions and the last page had a spot for her to fill in "firsts" ... she loved it at the time, but not a word after that, and I've never seen it.

Then I made 8x8 albums for both my SILs for Christmas the following year, all ready to put pictures in. Even included adhesive in the gift box for them, and I've never seen either one, and they've never been mentioned. No more gift albums for them.

Now my FIL asked me to scrapbook his fishing trip to Mexico and LOVES it! He was very impressed when I was done, and has shown it to many people when we've been over. My MIL also has a couple of albums I made her (one a 'baby boy' album for their English Bulldog puppy, and one 'family' word book) and they are prominently displayed in their living room.

I also know better than to spend too much time on handmade cards for those that will just toss them.

Like everyone else, I've had plenty of my share in finding out who to give handmade gifts to, and who not to!


 
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you can always take pics and make another for you!! But I understand what you are saying!!


 
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I take pics to - mainly to upload to my gallery, and if I learn a new technique I'll make a sketch of it in my notebook. Sometimes though when I'm on a roll I'll make a second or third in the same sitting. I'm always finding that's someone's birthday creeps up on me without warning! I really must get started on that birthday & address book I promised myself I'd do this year!


 
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Oh DD was very hurt by it. It turned her off of scrapbooking for a long time. She would help me ideas on what to make and how to do when I was stumped, but that as far as it went. Until Last December when she saw the TP Mini I made for my friend. She loved it so much that she made one almost the same for her sister. She has since made another mini and has started another.


 
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I made a wedding album for my niece, not even a thank you. After that I'm very picky who I make anything for. Now I usually don't have time to make full albums for people, so I make a 1 page LO and frame or shadow box it. Most albums get tucked away as kids can get to them, they get dusty, etc., but with the framed LO's they usually get hung up on the wall and displayed and a lot less work regardless if it gets stuffed in a drawer!


 
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did she??????? give it back, I mean?




Just an FYI: I got my frame back! (she broke a charm off it tho, I THINK it was an accident, it was in the bag..)



 
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good!!!! You can always put the charm back on.


 
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