Username Post: Total loss of mojo....        (Topic#1592199)
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I have scrapbooked off and on since I was in high school (late 90's) and I've went through periods where I was very active and others where I was not. I know that is normal, but over the weekend I had a very sad discovery... I realized that I think it might be time to give it up for good. It makes me sad to be around my supplies. I have three gift albums in progress, and it drove me to tears to even think about working on them. I feel like there is no point; I don't do anything that is worth scrapbooking (seriously, my bf and I are pretty much hermits and we're ok with that) and furthermore I have no family and no kids so it just seems like spending a lot of effort on something that will be thrown away someday. I don't really know why I'm posting about this, maybe someone else has gotten to the same point and come back from it. Has anyone been this far down the lost mojo road?


 
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I felt so sad reading this. I hope you'll just store away your supplies because someday you will have something to scrap. I wouldn't worry about a lost mojo...it seems the harder I search for my lost mojo the farther away it goes. Just don't think about and someday you may get an inspiration. You never know.
and who says you have to make layouts...make cards...or layouts with just journaling how you feel.
Or like I said just forget it for awhile.


 
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I agree with the above poster.....put it all in a box and see what happens in the coming months, etc. Everyone loses their mojo, mine certainly comes and goes. I hope you don't give it up completely, when your mojo returns you may find you like it.


 
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I'm agreeing too. Just put it away. Something will come up that makes you want to scrap.

So what if there is no one to leave it too. You can't look at it like that. My kids will get mine but that doesn't mean they won't pitch it in the trash.

The main reason I scrap is so when my husband and I get old (older) we will have the memories to enjoy and relive. I'm doing it for us.

I say I want the grandkids to get to know us through my pages and stories but then may not care or even be a little bit interested.

I scrap for my husband and me to enjoy when we can't do things anymore.

Just hang on to the stuff. Something will happen in your life that you want to remember and relive someday.

You post is just so sad.

If you went to high school in the late 90's you are still young. All kinds of things can and will happen in your life - really good things you want to remember.

My life was pretty boring and then when I was 57 years old - everything changed and I suddenly had the life I never in a million years dreamed I would have! Life takes sharp changes and they can be wonderful changes even if you don't get out much now and the two of you live like hermits.

Keep you supplies, pack them up if you have too. But don't sell them or get rid of them. You will probably want them again.


 
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I'm sorry you feel this way. I too have no kids, so I scrapbook my dog. I have scrapbooks of my past dogs and they bring me happiness to look through them and remember how I loved them.
I don't get to travel much, so don't have a lot of pictures, I have a very small family and we seldom do anything together that we snap pics of.
But I love scrapbooking, making cards, art journals, mixed media projects, gift albums for friends, etc. For me it isn't about leaving a legacy but about tapping into my inner artist and as stress relief.
I hope you take a moment to reflect your reasons for even starting this hobby before you get rid of everything. You may find that you're simply in a bad place right now but that could change and you might miss this outlet.


 
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If you feel that way, why not try some art journaling???? That's all about being creative for YOU and not focused on photos or events at all.


 
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Yes art journaling is so much fun! Go to youtube and type in Dylusions Spray Ink. I got rid of most of my scrapbooking stuff about 10 years back. The I found things I wanted to say and started all over again. Paper crafting sort of got me going.


 
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Excellent advice from everyone!!!


 
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You are a valuable person with interests and strengths.Your life is worth scrapbooking!! Don't compare yourself to any other. You might meet someone that would totally want to know more about you and want to enjoy your scrapbooks. I haven't lost my mojo, but someday it might happen. Don't give up!! "This too shall pass".


 
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I've felt the same way and still when I really think about it, I get the same feelings. I don't do much anymore, no kids, no bf, and nobody to leave the books to. I still manage to be behind in my scrapping. Don't do it for a long while if it brings you so much grief though. I hadn't scrapped for about 3 years and just recently have wanted to again. Now I look forward to it.


Edited by AmyWho on 11-12-13 06:46 PM. Reason for edit: No reason given.


 
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I would hang on to it also. If you like the creative process, just make some cards. You can always donate them to cards for soldiers. Art journals are really fun too.


 
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I put mine away for several years and it really helped. I would suggest to try that for a while Please!


 
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No kids here either. That was one of the questions I asked when I first began this "what's the point if I have nobody to pass it all on to?" I was told to do it for the fun, for the art-work, for the joy of working with pretty things, for myself. So I did.

Sometimes I have dry periods. That's OK, I just do something else until the mojo comes back: making candles, soap, interior decorating.

Those gift albums that are bugging you so much - put them away, out of sight. In the loft or cellar. They are probably sapping your emotional energy.

Why not make cards with all the pretty things you have? There are such beautiful creations out there on Pinterest and in the Gallery. There are challenges and contests that might rekindle your inspiration, and cards are for giving away, not cluttering up your home. They are quick, easy and satisfying. Operation Write Home will take them, and you'd be doing something really worth-while.

If even the thought of that bothers you, then absolutely box everything up and revel in the new-found clear space. Do something else instead, something you love. Above all, be happy.


 
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I am sitting here thinking about "passing it on" My eldest son might want some of my scrapbooks but his fiance would not. My eldest daughter might but her home life is uncertain. SO I make those books for me. If (and it is a possibility) thet get thrown away after I am gone...so be it. I think I make them because I can.


Edited by southgirl on 11-13-13 06:47 AM. Reason for edit: No reason given.


 
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Thank you so much for your suggestions... I most likely will put it aside for awhile. For a time, I had the same thought as Rosey; I'm just doing this for fun, it doesn't matter. It's really become such a chore to even go and find a topic to scrapbook though. This year I've scrapped exactly 2 LOs, there wasn't anything else interesting enough to work on. Maybe I am just in an ugly spot I need to get out of.

I have heard of art journaling and it does seem interesting. I am so not a card maker though, LOL.


 
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I think we all go through "blue funks" as my dad used to call them! I really, really hope you are feeling better. I work on my albums for me! I know my kids will get them when I'm gone, but I really don't think they will treasure them like I do. By then, I will be in heaven and I won't care! Why don't you take a day trip to somewhere around your town? Sometimes seeing something through different eyes helps me. We are all here for you! Sometimes I scrap silly things, like a new dish I cook. I guess the worst thing I've done is a street sign! It was funny because the streets crossed each other and the street names were the names of 2 friends. I am easily amused, though! I scrap my dogs, my cats, my cars, books I read, a new piece of furniture, a great Goodwill find and occasionally my family. Hope you are able to see things in a new light soon!


 
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I've seen people scrap books, movies, tv shows, musical artists and bands.

I've scrapped dishes I've made too - even scrapped a page once about my Southern lemonade!

I sometimes just scrap a page with a funny story on it - no photos.

One rather strange page I did - I did a layout on the time we ran out of gas! It was fun. Also we love See's Candy and I did a fun page using the flyer from See's that they have in the stores.


 
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Jesse have you ever though of making it into like a work of art, use the paper designs themselves along with embellishments and words, and maybe some journaling to do a 3-d art page, put it on a chipboard piece, or canvas, modgepodge it. Hang them on the walls, put them on mini easels as decorative designs that make you happy. Do ones for the seasons if you like. Look at it as creating art, you don't have to have an occasion to create a page. Look at nature or other things that interest you and incorporate them into your creative side when you get the inclination to work on stuff again. We all go through funks of not feeling creative.


 
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I have only boys and I'm sure they won't keep my albums. I make them for me.
You don't have to scrap events, you can scrap so much more than that ! Your feelings, your history, your childhood, the changes of seasons, your routine, your pet, your daily life, anything !
I usually use photos of my kids, but actually, it's also the process that I enjoy (if not, I would only put the photos in an album and write my comments on the side ! I do scrapbooking because the pretty stuff and the fun process give me lots of joy).

If you don't feel to scrapbook, don't. Do something else ! Or try a challenge. Try a class. Try to scraplift something you love ?





 
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I started scrapbooking in high school. In college I met what I thought was the love of my life. We had an exciting 7 years together. We vacationed everywhere and I felt like everything needed to be placed in my scrapbook. I worked tirelessly on them and had numerous complete when I found out that the last two years of that relationship he had a second family. There are not words for how I felt. I threw everything out and destroyed all of those scrapbooks. It has been 5 years and I recently married someone else and have two step children. I feel like I have a reason to scrap again.

But I regret getting rid of anything. I remember feeling like I would never take another picture and never have anything exciting to remember again. That's why I did it. But I wish I could still look at those books. Some of those vacations are places I will probably never go again. And all of those supplies...oye!!

Don't get rid of it. Pack it away. One day you will want to get out a stamp for something and then maybe another day a punch and then you will realize you are scrapping again.


 
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Maybe you should try one of the swaps. They are really fun and some of them are like making ornaments.


 
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I want to respond to this post. I've been going through a very difficult, stressful time the last couple of months. My son and his wife are divorcing and they have a 13 month daughter. My son is my only child and my granddaugher is my only grandchild. My daugher-in-law has moved back to her hometown which is about an hour and a half away from us. My son is still in the area where we live - at least for now. They are working on a joint custody arrangement. When they told us the marriage was over I pretty much fell off the edge for a few days. I couldn't even go to work. I just cried and mourned the loss of my life as it had been. Interestingly, one of the first thoughts that popped into my head was "I'll never scrapbook another page as long as I live!" I mentally packed everything up in the room and stored it out of sight. I think it's interesting that when we're at a really low point in our life some of us want to deny ourselves the very things that give us pleasure. Maybe we feel like we don't deserve to be happy ever again. The good news is that I am back to more of my normal self and I'm so glad I didn't do anything rash! I am hoping to get back into my scrapbook space this coming weekend even if it's only for a few hours. So to the original poster please know that you won't feel this way forever even though I know it seems like you will. If you think you might be suffering from depression, please seek out help from your physician! And don't deny yourself the little pleasures in life like a beautiful piece of paper, a really cool embellishment or a new adhesive you really, really love! I'll be thinking of you. And posting this was good therapy for me, too, so thank you!


 
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Thank you for sharing!! I've been taking medication for depression for many years. Without it, I'd be lost. When I get under stress, my scrapbooking is the one of the main things that heals me. It is a spiritiual connection for me.


 
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Oh wow, so much pain. I'm sorry.


 
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I don't have kids either. I scrap for the creating part of it and the "telling a story" part. I am just starting our "Remodeling Album" on our house. We live in the house my husband grew up in and are "remodeling as we go", you know save and then do. I do go through periods, months at a time, that I don't even touch my stuff. But after these down time spurts I seem to have more ideas. I do hope you hang on to your stuff, but like the others have said, maybe take a break and try something different for a while.


 
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Hang in there. Buy some pretty decorative boxes and put your things away. You could even put some fabric over them and use the stack of boxes like a little table. Thinking of you and hoping that the joy of playing with paper and scissors finds its way back to you.


 
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Thanks for sharing your story... glad it made you feel better to do so!

I think I'm just in a really transitional period right now. About a year ago, I broke up with my bf of 6 years which turned extremely nasty to the point police have been involved (as recently as a month ago), I'm really unhappy at work, my granparents, who are the only family I have, are declining rapidly, my best buddy, my 10.5 year old Rottweiler, is also declining, and I've been recently diagnosed with ADD so my doctor has been trying me on different medicines. The bright spot is that my new bf is absolutely wonderful... I'd be lost without him.

Thanks for all of your support and listening.


 
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I'm so glad you have a wonderful boyfriend! It's so special when we have a wonderful husband/boyfriend or significant other in our lives! I loved being single but I'm loving being part of a couple even more.

Maybe there will be things you two do together you will want to scrap later. Some of the best things to scrap or the little things in life because the little things can make the most.

I scrapped one page of us putting a jig-saw puzzle together and plan to do one of a tv show we really love and are watching the DVDs. I love to scrap stories of the silly things he does and he says that when I scrap these things it shows him how much I love him because he knows these little things mean a lot to me.

Just put stuff away, when and if you feel like scrapping, get your stuff out. I think you will feel like scrapping again!


 
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I am kind of in the same boat. Married no kids, life feels blah compared to my friends. I don't have the fabulous trips to Cancun or 10 people at my house for Thanksgiving either.

I too felt guilty for having all these cool supplies and feeling like I had nothing to scrap. My stuff sat untouched for years.

What I ended up doing this past year was starting project life type stuff. Doesn't have to be as rigid as once per day, weekly, monthly whatever you like is fine.

I found it got me at least taking some more pictures of everyday life, and at least cutting up paper using glue and my stickers. Not as fancy as regular scrapbooking but I at least feel better about using my supplies, instead of letting them just sit there.



 
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My neighbor had several aunts that either never got married or never had kids, in their day they were quite the social ladies. The last one passed this last year and Annette, along with her brother, had the task of cleaning out the house. In with her belonging there was an old scrapbook, one that her Aunt made when she was much much younger. I ooohh'd and aaahhhh'd over that whole book! What fun it was to look at cards, letters, envelopes, pictures, that were over 75 years old. I did not know any of the people in the pictures but the history of the family and the town they lived in was a pleasure to see.
Just the everyday things is a girls/ladies life, but what history for people to enjoy years down the road. So don't give up and don't give it all away just yet. There are so many things in our life that we might not think is exciting or important but who know what someone else might enjoy, even if it ends up in an antique store some day!!


 
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Jesse. I completely understand. You don't feel you have a lot to showcase at the moment, so naturally scrap-booking may not seem like a suitable therapy. But you will want to remember your grand-parents, and your dog of course, so keep taking photos and recording stories. You may decide to scrap them one day when your meds have been stabilised and you're in a happier situation. I hope that things improve for you very soon.


 
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Losing mojo like that is a hard place to be. There are times that I just look at my stuff and just walk away. I'll go several weeks without scrapping - and I don't have a husband, significant other, or kids. Just my mom, who lives with me, and my cats. I scrap about them, and I especially do cards for friends and family. They're tiny little LOs that keep me in the game when I'm not feeling the scrappy love.

But don't push it if you don't feel it. Just walk away and wait for another day in the future for the mojo to hit you again. The worst thing would be for you to get rid of all your stash and then decide later on that you're really wanting to do it again. Pack it up, move on ... and then come back!

You'll be in my thoughts....

And I'm another one of those people that can honestly say, "Better living through chemistry!" I'd be lost without my meds!!


 
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  • Sewflake Said:
My neighbor had several aunts that either never got married or never had kids, in their day they were quite the social ladies. The last one passed this last year and Annette, along with her brother, had the task of cleaning out the house. In with her belonging there was an old scrapbook, one that her Aunt made when she was much much younger. I ooohh'd and aaahhhh'd over that whole book! What fun it was to look at cards, letters, envelopes, pictures, that were over 75 years old. I did not know any of the people in the pictures but the history of the family and the town they lived in was a pleasure to see.
Just the everyday things is a girls/ladies life, but what history for people to enjoy years down the road. So don't give up and don't give it all away just yet. There are so many things in our life that we might not think is exciting or important but who know what someone else might enjoy, even if it ends up in an antique store some day!!



I love this post!!!


 
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Sewflake, eventually that scrapbook of your ancestors should go to a local museum...I'm sure they would love it...we have a collection of scrapbooks from the late 1800s in our archives at the museum I work in...


 
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why don't you make pages as decor? then it doesn't need pics and it's not getting shoved into a book, you can enjoy it all the time.

when you are ready to start coming out of the lost mojo, there are things you can do.

-make anything. don't use pics. you probably won't like it, but it gets you started.

-scrap your life now. take pics of you and your bf doing everyday stuff. those are some of my favorite LOs i ever made.

-make a point to get out and do something with your bf. even if its a family gathering, it will give you some 'thing' to scrap.

good luck.


 
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I'm thinking the same thing Melanie. Just a trip to the park or to the zoo can make for pages and pages of wonderful layouts.

My son and I hate mustard - my husband loves it. I opened the cabinet one day to find "hazardous waste" stickers my son made stuck all over the mustard squeeze bottle. Made a great layout.

One day last year I went in the kitchen and there was a huge turkey - standing about 3' tall - at my back sliding door. We do not have any farms around us anywhere close and I don't know of any that raise turkeys. We are not zoned to have turkeys and we have a high fence all around our house because of our pool. We are in the middle of a residential area, 1/2 mile from the interstate and 2 blocks from a college and a mall. Where he came from, we will probably never know. Everyone thinks I'm crazy but I have plenty of photos of him. Can't wait to do the scrapbook page for it.

My husband wasn't home and he just looked at me like I came from another planet when I told him there was a turkey on the back porch most of the day. I'm so glad I had the camera (plus the turkey left his "calling card" all over the patio). Problem was he pecked on our back sliding door for about 2-3 hours and I was afraid he was going to break it! Every time I ran him off he ran to the corner of our yard and then went back to pecking on the sliding door - guess he saw his reflection.


 
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Sometimes you just have to find an adventure. Open a newspaper, find an interesting event, and say, "I am going to go do that." Don't be afraid to do solo adventures. Your mojo and joy for life will return. And don't scrapbook because you feel you don't have anyone to share it with. Art is for your enrichment and happiness.


 
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I agree so much with the post above!


 
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  • RedSquirrel Said:
No Operation Write Home will take them, and you'd be doing something really worth-while.




I was going to mention card making for Operation Write Home... wonderful operation and you'll get to still paper craft and Know you are doing someone favors.

I'm like Henri in that I scrap for: first the love of it and two for my hubby and I. the kids all want my books and that's nice to know.


 
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