Username Post: Sad Scrapping?        (Topic#1595557)
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I am having a very traumatic time with my oldest daughter. I want to go home and bury my face in pattered paper and punches, but I am not sure I will be able to. Have you ever scrapped during sad times?


 
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Don't do it...step away from the scrap table.


 
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no I do not THINK I have, I might have when my grandfather died. If I were you I would just take a little break.
Now that I think longer I have some trouble with my Son (age 13) and he is having major trouble at school too, so I guess I have let it be an escape for you if you choose to continue scrapping,
GOD BLESS YOU and I really Hope things with your daughter get a lot better!!!
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Sometimes it helps just to clear my head and focus on something besides the heavy issues of life. I go in my room, shut the door and leave the world outside for an hour or two. If you think it will help you feel a little better by all means, do it.


 
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I think it would depend on what you mean by traumatic, if it's just normal teenage angst acting out behaviors then yes I was able to scrap, but when my daughter was in the hospital and then intensive therapy because she had been suicidal, no I couldn't sleep or eat let alone do any scrapping.


 
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I've created art journal pages about really sad times. I've created scrapbook pages about unpleasant life lessons for DS. It has been a little therapeutic to get messy and tear/crumple paper. Writing about the situation and my feelings was also helpful because it allowed me to think things through and get ideas on what to do next about the problem.


 
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I did scrap a page of my mom after she died. She was 86 so that's different from the emotions you are going through. Having said that, it might be good therapy. Scrap something that you would not normally do for fun.


 
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Thank you for all of your wonderful comments and thoughts. it makes me feel peaceful and serene just sitting in my scrap room. There is a fountain outside my window.


Edited by bonprof on 04-10-14 04:28 PM. Reason for edit: No reason given.


 
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I find cards are easier to make during sad times than scrapbook pages,,,,,but maybe that's just me.


 
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Oh Donna, I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. I do have a grown dd so I understand about the teen issue. I have scrapped many times when I have been sad or mad or upset. Just being in my room makes me feel peaceful & happy. I am JEALOUS of your fountain. I learned to love them because my mom had some in her entry way surrounded by real plants & beautiful silk flowers. She adored them so I do too. I am glad that you posted that you feel better in there. DO WHATEVER makes you feel better.



 
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I think creating art can be very healing and calming. Taking the time to step away from life's struggles and immersing yourself in something you love can bring you a lot of peace. Pour all your frustration, pain, and angst into something that will get you out of your head and your mind focused away from that which is causing it.

I don't know you but you are in my thoughts.


 
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Thank you so much. It is very comforting to have my sb.com family. I did a little housework and then worked on a page. It is very calming and centering to create.


 
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That is great Hon, I am so glad you did that


 
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I hope the angst clears up soon. I'm very glad you have a haven to escape to.


 
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  • bonprof Said:
Thank you for all of your wonderful comments and thoughts. it makes me feel peaceful and serene just sitting in my scrap room. There is a fountain outside my window.




I popped in to check on you. Fountains and wind chimes are beautiful for their calming effects. Hope today gives you more peace.


 
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I'm not sure that I have ever scrapped during a sad time but I know I have scrapped MAD. My scrap studio is my place of calm, quiet, and peace! If I'm not feeling any of those then I will shut my door and immerse myself in creating until I do!!

I have found that sad can take days if not weeks to work thru and after years all is better and half forgotten. Which helps me knowing that the next sad thing to come along will eventually be OK given enough time.


 
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  • Quote:
I'm not sure that I have ever scrapped during a sad time but I know I have scrapped MAD



Oh no, not me. I SHOP when I MAD!


 
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I could probably tell you stories about a child that would curl your hair,,,,,it never fails ONE of them has to be a bit wild

you'll get through it,,,,,the one thing I know that really helped me was being good to myself,,,,do something good for yourself every single day,,,,,,

someday your daughter will appreciate you and your love.


 
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Wow. You are wonderful people.!! Thank you.


 
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My kids are 27 and 28. Never assume that adult children won't give you stress. In some ways, it is way worse.


 
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  • bonprof Said:
My kids are 27 and 28. Never assume that adult children won't give you stress. In some ways, it is way worse.



oh absolutely! Mine was a minor when she went more than a little wild, but I saw plenty of kids who were adults give their parents gray hairs!!!!!


 
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LOL! My DH asked me just the other day if I thought the kiddos (ages 39, 37, 35, 33 and 31) were trying to kill us! My scrap room is my happy place. I can go in there, close the door and escape from just about anything. I say, YES. Scrap away and escape!


 
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  • bonprof Said:
My kids are 27 and 28. Never assume that adult children won't give you stress. In some ways, it is way worse.



I'm 37 and pretty sure that I have broken my own mother some days. I believe you.



 
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I'm so sorry your d is going through a difficult time, and I'll say a prayer for her. During my d's very serious illness, I couldn't scrap at all. I didn't touch my stuff for close to a year. Scrapping is all about remembering happy times for me, and during that time I couldn't bring myself to think about the past because it made the present look that much worse. Today, everything is great and scrapping is joy. I think we're just all different in how we approach difficult times, and whether our hobbies can help or hurt. I hope things will be better soon!


 
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You are very sweet and kind. I so appreciate all the support!! Bless you.


 
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I think it would be very therapeutic to scrap something that has been sad in your life. I have lost 2 children and I keep telling myself I am going to scrap about that event at some point but I keep putting it off...not b/c I don't want to do it but I find other things I'd rather scrap. I'm glad you brought this question up b/c I've begun on a 'book of me'...that's devoted to things from my childhood, teen years, etc...I think that would be a good place to put those kinds of thoughts/pictures...


 
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I very much agree with those above who find creative endeavors to be healing and calming. Angry, sorrowful, depressed, whatever -- scrapping or art journaling gets me outside myself by forcing me to concentrate on something other than problems that seem to grow and grow the more I think about them.


 
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Omg. Two children? I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers. I have given my daughter to God. He knows what to do. Today I just played with some stamps and ink. I think i want to make a mini chipboard book. I feel very calm when in my scraproom.


 
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All these issues with kids and adult children reminds me to be kinder to my own mom, who lives with me. I think I still kind of give her a hard time from time to time. And I'm 56!!

{{{hugs}}} to all those who are going through tough times. I always tell myself that this, too, shall pass. Like a kidney stone


 
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Thanks!! You are very sweet!


 
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When I am sad and can't be creative I usually work on organizing. That's usually the time I add some to my stamp catalog or move my room around. I agree with others, shopping is good!


 
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I waited 18 days before putting in another order. That's amazing for me. Feels good!


 
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Yes, yes! I feel that it's VERY important to scrap the good as well as the not so good. I am scrapping my current journey with Ovarian Cancer. This way when we see the 'great' moments we've scrapped we really realise just how great they are because we are honest with ourselves that sometimes things just aren't so great. With these layouts I do hidden journaling so that it's not 'in your face' sad but I can reflect and reminisce should I wish.


 
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Good for you for trying to find the good in the bad and you're right - when you look back it'll be good to remember there were 'good moments'....prayers are with you -- have you posted any of your 'hidden journaling pages? I watch a lady on YouTube who is very good about adding extra pictures to a 1-2 pages (with hidden journaling sometimes) that to me is absolutely amazing...


 
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Hi Lynn!
No I haven't posted any yet.. I only posted one layout so far here . Just joined the site this mornin
I LOVE Hidden journaling... it allows the layout to be one thing for the casual onlooker and completely intimate for the artist
xGabi

  • lynnbonnie1002 Said:
Good for you for trying to find the good in the bad and you're right - when you look back it'll be good to remember there were 'good moments'....prayers are with you -- have you posted any of your 'hidden journaling pages? I watch a lady on YouTube who is very good about adding extra pictures to a 1-2 pages (with hidden journaling sometimes) that to me is absolutely amazing...




 
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Welcome Gabi!

I'm sorry your reason for joining the site is a tough one, but I hope you make friends on here who will help you through it. Hidden journalling is perfect for that kind of story.


 
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