You pay, you decide. I feel that way too. My husband and I footed the bill for our wedding. We agreed on a budget, did the homework together, etc. My mom was excited but insisted on inviting some members of family that did not make it on my list (it was small). I gave in, did invite them and ended up paying for those guests that didn't show and did not have the proper etiquette of letting me know they couldn't/wouldn't make it. If you let others make the decision on your most important things in life, you will always regret it and in some ways hold it against them (that includes family). Good Luck I wish you and your future husband all the best!